Why Nikah is important???
There are two forces prominently present in the human being, the excesses of which and its irregularity destroy the human being.
(1) The power of anger (2) The power of lust.
There is excess and cruelty in the power of wrath, and lack of it is cowardice, and moderation in it is brawniness which is required and intended by the Shariah.
An excess of sexual power is sinfulness and impiety, and excess in it is appearance and impotence, and its middle is chastity, which is desired and intended. In marriage, these two basic forces of man are brought under control and a path of moderation is created in the life of man, for example, by joining in marriage, a man’s relationship expands. Someone becomes his father-in-law, someone is his mother-in-law, someone is his brother-in-law, and someone is his elder brother.
Similarly, if a person is weak, his manpower is not equal. He goes and escapes from cowardice. Now this person remains neither cruel nor oppressed, but remains in the desired position of courage.
In the same way, marriage moderates the sexual power, for example, when a man finds the right and legitimate place for lust, he is protected from sinfulness, debauchery and animalism. Hazrat Maulana Mufti Muhammad Shafi, may God have mercy on him, used to say that if a fourteen-year-old girl and a fifteen-year-old boy are bound to marry, then the existence of adultery will end to a large extent.
In the same way, due to non-marriage for a long period of time, a person is protected from this problem by the right marriage.
Galen wrote that when a human organ is stopped from its creative process for a long time, it leaves its creative process and becomes useless. This proved that by getting married, a man stays true to his original character of moderation and chastity, does not indulge in debauchery, sinfulness, impiety, and adultery, and does not become a victim of impotence.
Benefits of Nikah It is also written that it increases the ambitions and morale of a person because after becoming a husband, he thinks that he will earn by himself, eat by himself, feed his wife, children and relatives. Generosity comes with boldness and courage and the married person becomes accustomed to Mujahidat (struggling) because the whole household system falls on his head, thereby saving him from bad qualities like laziness, carelessness and negligence.
Also, marriage is the only source of righteous children, and righteous children have great benefits in religion and the world, in the same way, the mood of a hot-tempered man becomes stable, and listening to the requests of his wife moderates his mood.
When the representative and leader of the nation goes home, his wife send him to the market to bring her coriander and turmeric, he walks and buys the goods himself. This brings humility in his life and saves him from arrogance and spiritual reformation takes place.
Therefore, the condition of Mirza Mazhar Jan Janan, may God’s mercy be upon him, is obvious to everyone who knows how sensitive he was. His wife was as bad as he was sensitive. He used to say that Allah has given me a wife like this for my reformation.
Seeing these countless benefits, Imam Abu Hanifah (may Allah have mercy on him) said that marrying is better than Nafli acts of worship and the “Sunnah of marriage” of Muhammad Arabi (peace be upon him) is far better and feasible than the non-marriage of Hazrat Yahya (peace be upon him) if Hazrat Yahya (peace be upon him) did not marry. Muhammad Arabi has performed many marriages. If Hazrat Yahya (peace be upon him) did not encourage marriage to his Ummah, then Muhammad Arabi (peace be upon him) has encouraged marriage many times, which is the greatest highway for men and women.
I have heard from the scholars that Bayazid Bastami, may Allah have mercy on him, said that my position was higher than Ahmad bin Hanbal, may God have mercy on him, but he was ahead of me because he was married and I was not.
(Tozihat Sharah-e-Mishkat Sharif, Volume: 5, Page: 31)
